Master/Slave Agreements

Recently master/slave agreements and programming has come up for me and I thought it would be a good thing to chat about.  While this definitely is a part of mind control, it often infects religion, culture, marriage and more.  In the cult, even though one is supposedly the “master” the reality is they are also being controlled by another master.  Everyone is enslaved.

I used to think that control was such a horrible thing and that I would never want to control someone.  I still think it isn’t good, however, I understand now that we all self-protect and try to control ourselves, our circumstances and those around us for safety.  It isn’t because we are bad people but because it is the only way we knew at the time to feel somewhat “safe” – to be in control.  If we look deeply, I believe, all of us will find areas where we are controlling out of fear in one situation or many. 

My way of “control” was to people-please.  If I did what you wanted, even if I didn’t want it or like it, then maybe you would like me, or not be mad at me, etc.  I couldn’t be myself because that was too risky.  You might not like me or love me or you might be mad and reject me.  This is common for chronic people-pleasers. 

Another way of control is through emotions.  One look from someone could stop me in my tracks.  Of course, there’s violence or words or other forms of control.  The subtle ones are no less damaging. 

Change starts with us.  Choosing to not people-please or more subtle forms of control.  Choosing not to be controlled by others.  Coming out of agreement with any master/slave agreements.  Those in the cult would have both situations – some where you might be slave and some where you might be master.  It can be hard if the presenter is more on the slave side to imagine being master, but it is the way we are trained, to be both.  It can be easy as a survivor to only see the places we were victimized and to not see the places where we were programmed to victimize.  But both sides must be addressed for full healing.  Although my true heart is not to be a “master” I know that I was used in that way.  Facing this in the love of True FAMILY is how we overcome, repenting and choosing a different way – freedom in True Jesus! 

Whether you’ve experienced control in “normal” life or in the cult, there is hope as we learn to walk in the freedom that True Jesus paid for at the cross.  How free are you?  Let’s walk this out together!